Sex & Cake



Savoring the indulgent frosting, relishing my brief moment of ecstasy, my hubby of eighteen years swept in behind me in the kitchen and playfully kissed my neck.  I sneakily smiled like a schoolgirl with a crush as I remembered our evening together.  “Let’s go girls!  It’s time for school!”  He called the troops and they shuffled out the door!

I finished frosting the German Chocolate cake I made for my warrior Husband to enjoy on his day off and thought to myself,

“Darn!!!  Sex AND a cake! I’m a good wife!”

Tempted to snap a picture of my chocolate brilliance and send it to a girlfriend with a #sexandacake #goodwifey I was reminded of this.

So when you give, do not announce it with trumpets, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and on the streets, to be honored by others.  Truly I tell you, they have received their reward in full.  But when you give, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing,  so that your giving may be in secret.  Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

 Matthew 6:3-4 (NLV)

So, I put my phone down.  

The gifts I gave to my Husband.  Love, time and a sweet indulgence were from my heart.  Work has been challenging for him lately and I wanted to spoil him a bit.  Give him rest and renewal.  Remind him of ALL that we DO have, instead of focusing on any struggle and lack.

Taking and sending or posting that picture would have stripped the gifts from their love, compassion and purity of intent.

Which led me to this thought.

Today, we are seduced into a very enticing allure called Social Media.

But is it posting or boasting?

We bring a friend flowers, we post.  Serve the homeless, we post.  Make our kids an extra special smiley face pancake breakfast, we post.  

Not to say sharing is wrong.   Posts and pictures can cause us to move.  To put love into action.  To get up and out and serve our family, our community and the world in richer, more profound ways.  By all means, let us keep encouraging, leading and inspiring one another through the power of Social Media.

I am only extending the encouragement to listen and be carefully led by the “gut Guidance” of the Holy Spirit.  

May we PAUSE before we POST and ask ourselves our motivations, after all isn’t every post some kind of an offering?

  • Are we posting to help fulfill or to be fulfilled?  
  • Are we prompted to post from a sincere heart? 
  • Do we genuinely wish to inspire and motivate others with these words and images?
  • Would the person/cause appreciate me posting or would it detract value from the gifts or time given? 

If the answer is No to any of these questions, or you feel unsure or an uneasiness about it in your Spirit, I encourage you to put the phone down.

Our joy and fulfillment should be in the act of giving and giving alone.

If we choose to gratify our flesh with that of our gifts given of the heart, we will have received our reward in full.

God loves a cheerful giver.  And desires to bless them gratefully!  (2 Corinthians 9:7-8)

Let our joy be in Him!



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One thought on “Sex & Cake

  1. Wonderful perspective on social media and giving and how the two can intermingle and become messy. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and inspiration.

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